Love Formula (part 2)
One must love a woman in order to smell her hair, one must enter the magnetic field of love in order to even perceive her invisible currents and “blush with a suffocating wave, barely touching her sleeves …”
Beauty, mind, power, anyone will notice. But only a loving eye will open the sea of charm in an ordinary mole above the upper lip, in the line of eyebrows or a curl at the back of the head, only a loving heart will discover gold placers of secret virtues under the cover of everyday life.
Love makes our inner world richer, brighter, more receptive. The call of instinct can overshadow the mind, and love sharpens it. Instinct can make a person coarser, belittle, love exalts, ennobles.
Each of us is sometimes better and worse than ourselves. We are worse than ourselves when we get annoyed, do not hold back a rude word, succumb to an instant temptation to laziness or a hint of cowardice. And we are better than ourselves when we have compassion, regret, become someone’s support. And love is the highest degree of compassion, giving oneself to another person, fear is not for oneself – for him …
Maybe it was precisely this state of mind that Blok had in mind when he wrote that “only a lover has the right to the title of a man”? Or he also thought about what he knew well from his own experience: love gives the greatest incentive to creativity.
The best works of art, if not dedicated to love, are inspired by it. Medical scientists have pondered a lot about this stimulating side of love. The dependence of love and creativity was of interest to the great Russian biologist I. I. Mechnikov; he specially studied the biographies of Beethoven, Mozart, Wagner, trying to find in the music of these composers an echo of the love they experienced.
Academician I.P. Pavlov, evaluating the book of his colleague and teacher I.M.Sechenov “Reflexes of the brain”, said that “in the brilliant wave of Sechenov’s thought his passionate love for his young wife should have been implicated.”
I. S. Turgenev noticed the parallels between creative ups and the state of love: “Whenever I thought of writing something, I was shaken by a fever of love.”
It cannot be that love acts only on gifted people. Accumulating energy, it gives everyone the happy ability to do their job better, more beautiful, more precisely, to achieve their highest capabilities.
Love has not only paradise gardens. She has both dark labyrinths and deaf dead ends. If you are already interested in the statements of doctors, I’ll give one more. Academician A. A. Ukhtomsky, a physiologist, argued in letters to his student: “Love itself is the greatest happiness of all available to man … True joy, and happiness, and the meaning of being for a person are only in love, but it is terrible because it is terribly obliging, like no other one of the forces of the world, and out of cowardice before its obligations, leading to die for loved ones, people come up with decent motives for themselves to retire, and replace love with surrogates that are not obliging to anything. ”
Yes, love can hurt; she, like jealousy, has “arrows of fire”. Satisfaction of attraction alone is simpler, easier, safer for the heart. But love, even without reciprocity, makes a person richer and cleaner.
I quoted poets a lot. But do not think that love is their invention, that they simply know how to decorate everyday phenomena with words.
“Love is the same joy, it, like a ray of sunshine, shines for the living through all suffering, sorrows, failures and cares.” Do you know who said that? Ernst Thalmann, leader of the German Communists.
Love cannot be distinguished from our being, without it there is no past, no present, no future. And, perhaps, one of the main signs of love is that it is closely associated with a sense of responsibility for another person, with concepts of conscience and justice, with the eternal desire for each of us to have a family, give life to children, and extend ourselves in them.
I do not want to say that the line between simple dedication and true love is so clear. On the contrary, to find this line is one of the difficult problems of a young man. And I don’t know if I managed to give you any guidelines. But I’m sure: the time will come, you will meet a girl whose smile will be stronger than all these words. She will explain everything, light up everything, answer all questions …